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TOS B'nei Mitzvah Experience

 We are excited to announce that Temple Ohabei Shalom has received a grant to participate in an innovative new approach to b’nei mitzvah, sponsored by Moving Traditions! In the 2018-2019 year we’ll be incorporating family education and pre-teen sessions that connect Jewish wisdom to the interpersonal and social elements that go along with this coming-of-age ritual. The sessions aim to help you and your pre-teen explore what it means to be a guest and a host; how to navigate peer pressure, social media, and the experience of being the center of attention; what b’nei mitzvah is all about; and other social-emotional challenges and joys associated with b’nei mitzvah. We believe that your participation in these family education programs will enrich your child’s experience—and your own—marking the b’nei mitzvah as a lifecycle tradition into “becoming a teen” that leads to personal growth and positive communal connection.

Below you will find a calendar for the year of the TOS B’nei Mitzvah Experience. The 6th graders and families will be joined on occasion by our 7th graders and their families, as we learn together, build community, and explore the wonderful transitional moment of b’nei mitzvah.

Please take a minute now to mark all of these dates in your own family’s calendar, as this is an important component of your child becoming a bar or bat mitzvah at Temple Ohabei Shalom. We take this seriously and we hope you will too. Please let us know if you foresee any major conflicts.

We look forward to learning and celebrating with you!

Amy Deutsch, Rabbi Berkman, Rabbi Schaefer, and Shari Churwin


TOS B'nei Mitzvah Experience Calendar

Session Time


Tuesday, May 22, 2018


Puzzle Break teen-only activity

October 19, 2018

Friday night (exact time TBD)

Family Session 1 (Grades 6 & 7):

Today you are an Adult: What does it mean to become a teen?


Teen sessions 


Nov 13

Feb 5

Jan 22

Mar 26

(these will take place during ARS, but we wanted to highlight the dates for you!) 

4 sessions for students only, in 6th and 7th grade:


Growing Up

Center of Attention

Looking Good, Feeling Good


December 1 - 2, 2018

MOSTY-BOSTY Shul In (grades 3-7)

December 15, 2018

Saturday morning, approximately 9:00 am - 1:00 pm

Family Session 2 (Grade 6 only): 

Saturday morning Shabbat services: What's It All About? 

January 11, 2019 (Friday)

starting at 4:00 pm before Shabbat B’yachad dinner & services


Family session 3 (Grades 6 & 7):

You Just Don’t Understand


February 5, 2019 (Tuesday)

6:00 - 7:45 pm (dinner included)


Family Session 4 (Grade 6 only): B'nei Mitzvah Materials

April 2, 2019 (Tuesday)

6:00 - 7:45 pm (dinner included)

Family Session 5 (Grade 6 only)

Beyond Thank you




Tue, June 25 2019 22 Sivan 5779